WILL HE WANT ME AGAIN?

Q: my boyfriend and i have or have had a disagreement about our relationship. i do not know which. we keep making times to talk and he says he is committed to talking though each opportunity we make he doesn't bring it up. briefly, he wants to stop dating and i don't. i am wondering if time will heal and he'll call one day soon refreshed and ready to tango, or if he'll abandon the whole thing, in which case what would I do to help clear up the disagreement/make peace.

A:
With the Sun in Libra, you long to be in a relationship and be part of a couple. But more than that, you crave harmony and therefore are willing to give up part of yourself in order to make that happen. Your Moon is in Leo, which shows that you have a deep need to be admired and celebrated as the special woman that you know that you are, and it is conjunct Venus, the goddess of love. This shows an ability to relate easily with others - people like you and you are comfortable with them and very generous. Jupiter, the planet of good fortune, squares your Moon and your Venus which is a challenging aspect. This sometimes shows a person who is self-indulgent and may not be willing to do the hard work that is necessary to maintain relationships but instead wants them to come easily.

This is made more complicated by the fact that both the Venus/Moon pair and Jupiter are in a stressful aspect to Saturn. Saturn is the planet that creates restrictions and causes us to feel doubt and that we are not worthy, and in your chart it shows a tendency towards sadness (Saturn/Moon) and a sense on a deep level of being unworthy of love (Saturn/Venus). And yet the Moon/Venus in Leo KNOWS that you are worthy - I suspect that this sets up a cycle where you find yourself in a situation where you are not recognized by someone, like your present boyfriend, and you set out to prove to him that you ARE that special person. This dynamic was set up for you as a child, and I suspect it originated with your father who is usually represented in the chart by Saturn.

Your boyfriend's Sun is at the last degree of Scorpio which is the sign of intensity and drama. However, his Moon, Saturn and Mercury are all in Sagittarius which shows that he craves a great deal of freedom to follow his own path. Pluto squares his Moon which often indicates a difficult relationship with the mother and a fear of becoming too entangled in a relationship, and the conjunction of Saturn and Mercury in his chart shows that he too has a tendency towards depression and negative thinking. There are some difficult aspects between your charts that show a great deal of excitement and probably passion, but overall it could be difficult for the long term.

I would like to save you some heartache, and advise you that if your boyfriend tells you he wants to stop dating that is not a disagreement, that's him telling you that the relationship is over. Ideally, you would have a strong enough sense of self-esteem that you would not want to continue dating someone who is not interested in continuing the relationship. This is more about you and you may want to ask yourself why you are willing to settle for this situation rather than break free and find someone else who would truly value you. The challenge of your Moon/Venus in Leo is not just to show others how worthy you are, but to truly believe that within yourself.