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Astrological advice: When will Jupiter bring me my ideal relationship?

Each week I answer a reader question using their astrological chart. Because this service is designed to help as many people as possible, preference is given to questions which will have benefit and interest others. If you have a burning question you think others will share, please email me and it will be considered!

Q:
Jupiter has been transiting my seventh house since October 2017, I was expecting for a relationship to appear in my life. I was sure that just like Meghan Markle fell into Harry’s life, someone would fall into mine and vice versa. So I have been going to parties, pubs, weddings, meetings… any invitation I am saying yes (just like Jim Carrey in Yes Man movie), but nothing -besides drunk men- falls on my lap.

Jupiter is about to move to my 8th house and I am worried -frightened, indeed- that I will end up missing that experience in this life. I really want to marry and have a family of my own… but it looks like no matter what I do, no matter where I go… I end up the same. I am up to the point where I am tired and just want to curl in my bed… I hate loud places, I hate going to parties where I am stalked by married men, I hate going to the beach to be asked by kids half my age, but I am scared that if I don’t, I will be missing this opportunity.

What are your thoughts on this? what piece of advice/light could you give me on this? Are my expectations on Jupiter wrong or too high?

A:

When I was single for about nine years after my divorce I too watched the passages of […]

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By Lynn Hayes|2019-11-10T19:39:06-05:00August 30th, 2018|Advice, Relationships|4 Comments

“Does my chart say I will be…” 2018 edition

I have written on this before, but I think it bears repeating. I often get this question from readers and clients. “Does my chart say I will ever be able to have a successful relationship?” “Does my chart say I can overcome my fear of success?” “Will I ever be financially secure?” Or occasionally I will hear from someone who wants to know when their business will be successful, or whether someone they are involved with is for certain their soulmate.

The truth is, while the birthchart will identify challenges and blocks that we need to overcome in order to successfully navigate our life path, and while it certainly will show where we have particularly strong talents or skills in certain areas, it does NOT dictate our fate.

My answer to this question usually is, “Do you WANT to have a successful relationship, overcome your fear of success, become financially secure?” If you have the desire, you can make it happen. I have had clients whose charts were not well suited to owning a business, and certainly there are people (myself included) whose charts suggest a lot of trouble and trauma in relationships. But through effort, when our charts are challenged in certain areas we can still fulfill our dreams. But it does take effort, and it often takes healing old wounds that hold us back which is not an easy process.

For example, some astrologers would say that an individual with Saturn (the lord of Karma) in the seventh house of marriage will never be married. But I have seen clients with long-lasting happy marriages with that placement. I myself have Venus in Scorpio square to Pluto, a terrible aspect for relationships. And it’s true that I had a […]

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By Lynn Hayes|2019-11-10T19:39:06-05:00June 2nd, 2018|Astrology, Fate|0 Comments

The astrology of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle

photo from Flickr. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle are set to marry on May 19, 2018 and the royal watchers are abuzz with gossip. Will it last? Is she a gold digger? What about the racists? Meanwhile Germaine Greer has predicted that Meghan will “bolt” from the marriage, and an assortment of psychics are predicting that the wedding will be postponed, that it won’t happen, that that it won’t last, that they will have three children, etc. etc.

Astrology can give us a window into a relationship and provide hints as to compatibility and durability. What it cannot do, however, is predict whether two people will stay together. I have seen couples with perfectly harmonious charts split up because there’s not enough tension to hold the relationship together. And I have seen couples with very little compatibility who have long-term successful marriages.

All that aside, let’s take a look at Meghan and Harry to see how they are connected and where their difficulties might arise. You can catch up on Harry’s chart analysis here, and Meghan’s here.

Meghan and Harry’s astrology as individuals

Meghan and Harry are an example of two very different people uniting in a common purpose. With his Sun Sign in Virgo in a harmonious trine to his Taurus Moon and Capricorn rising (all Earth signs), Harry is at his core an extremely grounded and practical individual. However, his freewheeling Mars (drive and desires) conjunct Uranus (radical departure from the norm) in Sagittarius, the sign of freedom and adventure adds a radical side to his personality which defies the kind of structure which the earthy element creates. In the earlier article about Harry quoted above I wrote:

The […]

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By Lynn Hayes|2019-11-10T19:39:06-05:00May 14th, 2018|People, Politics|4 Comments

Soulmates: Are you really made for each other?

soulmates As an astrologer I am often asked for an analysis of compatibility between two charts. “Is this person my soulmate?” is usually the way the question is phrased. The idea that there is one perfect person who is just made for us, a “twin flame” as it is often described, is a captivating one. We may feel that once we find this perfect person, who harmonizes with us in every way, we would feel whole and complete and our lives would be made more satisfactory.

What I have seen in the real world is that the longest lasting marriages are not the ones that are most harmonious astrologically. In fact, some of the longest marriages are perhaps the least compatible. In the real world we are drawn to people who have qualities which we ourselves do not – the partners that complement us rather than provide merely a mirror or reflection of ourselves.

So I found this article particularly interesting:

The concept of soul mates is so romantic. Think of Plato’s description of the original humans, with their four arms, four legs and single heads of two faces, which sounds maybe a little unsettling but becomes so sweet once the mortal puzzle pieces get separated in half and have to find one another to become whole again. Why wouldn’t anyone want to be with someone who was made for them in heaven?

Well, because taking that view of a relationship could ultimately contribute to the couple’s demise, according to a new study in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology. Researchers observed that while there are myriad ways people talk about love, two common ways of framing relationships — the “other half/soul mate” approach […]

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By Lynn Hayes|2019-11-10T20:00:33-05:00August 6th, 2014|Relationships|1 Comment

Sunday inspiration: when bad planets happen to good people

Art by Willow Arlenea

I mean the title as a bit of a joke – an homage to the self-help book from the 1970s by Harold Kushner. But it’s no joke when tragic events happen in our own lives or to someone we love.

Over the past five years of such intense planetary drama these stories seem to occur more frequently, at least in my life. The bride-to-be whose fiance dies of a heart attack five days before the wedding. The parents who lose two children in the space of a year. The friend who waited over 40 years to find her soulmate and build their dream house, only to have him die of a brain tumor less than five years into their marriage. Another friend in a difficult marriage who loses her husband and father within six months. All of you have your own stories, perhaps from your own lives.

This kind of event that turns our world upside down generally occurs under the auspices of Saturn or Pluto. And sometimes both. My sister was an astrology skeptic until I started my blog under her tutelage, and then she became curious. I’m still not sure she’s convinced in its accuracy, but she is interested enough to want to know what the planets are doing when things get rough.

Over the past few years she has had a ridiculous lineup of planetary transits and progressions including a big lineup of planets to Pluto in her progressed chart and her second Saturn return. During that time she lost a job, found another one, her husband lost his job, couldn’t find another one, our mother ended up in the hospital with a chronic illness and died, her husband […]

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By Lynn Hayes|2019-11-10T19:39:07-05:00February 2nd, 2014|Favorite posts, Inspiration|9 Comments